We have just returned from the
annual North American Falconers Association (NAFA) Meet, held this year in Kearney, NE. This is where a bunch of falconers get
together, fly their hawks, visit, eat, buy/sell stuff, and so on. It's fun and I've been to about a dozen meets
over the years, although we had a gap in attendance between 2000 and 2010. David was born in 2001, Derek in 2003 and we
were just too busy raising kids to do much falconry. In fact, although I had a few birds during
this time, I'd pretty well dropped out of falconry and was probably going to
quit altogether. In 2010, though, I took
Derek to the meet in Dodge City
KS (just 4 h down the road) and
he got really interested. That's when I decided
to try for a wild peregrine falcon, rebuild my hawk house, and all the stuff
you can read about earlier in this blog.
Falcons in the weathering area |
A red-naped shaheen |
Derek loved this little merlin |
Dead 'possum. Derek had never seen one. All above photos by Derek |
I missed 2011 (more on that below),
but we made plans early to attend this year’s meet in Kearney NE. The last time the meet was there, I lived in Boise ID and drove solo
in an old beat-up blue Toyota
4WD pickup that burned a quart of oil every tank of gas. On the trip home, I was approaching Casper WY when I
realized I was the only person on the completely frozen-over Interstate. A gust of wind suddenly spun the truck around
and and I did 2 complete 360’s before coming to rest backward in the
median. After putting the truck in 4WD,
I made it to Casper
where I planned to spend the night, which just happened to be Thanksgiving Day. I hadn’t eaten since breakfast and driving
past a 7-11, I figured I’d check in to the Super 8 and then come back and get a
burrito or something. When I came back,
though, the 7-11 was closed! Back in the
room, I pooled all my change and came up with just enough $$$ to get a “Grandma’s” cookie and a Coke for supper.
The next morning, the wind was
blowing so hard that the flags were like painted boards stuck to the
flagpoles. I got some real food and headed
home, taking the scenic route across Wyoming
to Jackson Hole and then into Idaho. It was so cold in the old truck that I drove
wearing a full-length winter coat I’d bought at Cabela’s for Georgia, a hat,
gloves, and my winter boots. I’d stop to
take a nap and wake up freezing an hour later.
I finally made it back about 4 am.
When I woke up around 9-10, I noticed a big indoor car sale advertisement. Long story, short, I ended up trading off The
Blue Peril for a much newer and nicer Isuzu Trooper II. I later had some driving adventures in that
rig, too, but we’ll save the telling of such for another time.
Going to this year's NAFA (falconry)
meet reminded me of last year's meet.
The plan was for Georgia, Derek, and Brianna to go down south to Pinon NM, and me and
David to go north to Vernal
UT for what would've been his
first falconry meet. Unfortunately, he
wasn't responding well to transfusions and the last place I needed to be was 600
mi from home, so I cancelled and he and I stayed home. We went to town on a Wed to get his blood
checked. It turned out to be one of the
lowest results we'd gotten to date. With
the Thanksgiving holiday looming, and a weekend after that, both of which
would've required an ER visit rather than his normal doctors, we all made the
decision to push for ABQ on Monday. Georgia arrived
home on Sunday, took one look at David, and immediately re-packed and took
off for ABQ. I didn't see them again for 10 days
and when they returned, David was on the steroids that gave him an unexpected
and unexplained boost. He didn't get
another transfusion until the week before he died in May.
The period between early December,
when they returned from this long hospital stay, and his death in May was the
only really hopeful period we ever had.
David responded to the steroids with never-before-seen energy, strong
appetite, and good mood. His blood levels
stayed up for several weeks before slowly dropping and we were all hopeful that
this course would buy us some time to find a definitive diagnosis and a cure. In spite of the steroid’s boost-
and we could see him getting puffed up and bloated, not a healthy look at all- I
still had a strong sense that his time was going to be short and I tried hard
to make the most of it. I wish my
feeling would have been wrong, but it wasn't. I remember telling Georgia sometime in April that,
whatever happened, I was just thankful that we'd gotten to see David strong and
happy.
This time, last year: David with his new Ruger .22 and 1st prairie dog |
This time, last year: At Ronald McDonald House during The Long Stay |
It's a hard thing to say, but
David's death freed us to do all the things we suppressed when he was with
us. Since his passing, we've gone to Bandelier Nat'l
Monument where we climbed the tall ladders, gone elk hunting in the mountains, gone
to the falconry meet where we beat the bush for hours, gone swimming in the
hotel pool, and so forth... all things I couldn't or wouldn't do with
David. He would've tried and he would've given it all he had, but these
things would have exhausted him or exposed him to too many germs and, for his
sake, I would not have suggested them. So, I
dunno… doing these things is a mixed blessing.
We’re glad to be doing them again, but the reason we are is because
David’s no longer with us and doing them reminds us of that fact.
In retrospect, this time a year ago,
we started moving down “the final stretch” of David’s life and I’m sure I will
be thinking about this over the next several months. David passed many milestones in these few
short months- participating in 4H, shooting his first rocket, learning to shoot
his Ruger .22, shooting his bow in competition, reading and writing extremely well, and so on. As we pass those milestones a year later, I’m
sure they will bring back those memories. I also feel that when we reach the 1 year
anniversary of his passing, that it will bring closure of a new kind. From that day onward, we will be moving
forward in a time in which 365 days previously David wasn’t with us. Until
then, every annual event we do reminds us of what we were doing last year, with
him. So it was with this year’s NAFA
meet.
For now, though, we are, once again, "waiting on winter."
Psalms 30:5 NKJV ….
Weeping may endure for a night, But joy comes in the morning.
Dad and Derek discuss birds at Bosque del Apache |
Derek exploring at Bandelier Nat'l Monument |
Looking down the ladder at Bandelier |
Shades of Jacob's ladder |
God bless you Bryan.
ReplyDeleteYour pictures of David and telling of his story are very meaningful to me, and I'm sure to others as well.
ReplyDeleteMay the Lord bless you and your family.
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